Are you your own harshest judge?
In my last blog post I wrote about how judging your day creates your experience.
But what about self-judgment?
What emotional damage do you sustain from how you judge yourself?
Judgments you impose upon yourself can generate guilt that blights years of your life.
The negative verdicts of your inner judge destroy your self-confidence, diminish your self-esteem, cripple your choices, and quash your creative expression.
Yet the beginnings of negative self-judgment can often be traced back to an outside opinion that became your own limiting belief.
For example, who first judged that you were not beautiful, or talented, or capable?
Someone in your childhood who criticized or compared you to others?
Who judged that you had no ability for drawing, or writing, or dancing, or singing?
A teacher, or another insensitive adult?
Who judged that your dreams could never be realized, or that your deepest desires were futile, or that your passion was ridiculous?
A parent? A spouse? A partner?
At some point you not only acknowledged such valuations as truth, you accepted them as your inner reality.
Thus you began the lifetime of negative self-judgment that now defines you.
Years of piling up one false belief after another builds a mountain of guilt that can crush you.
Shifting this deadly weight means shifting your inner guilt.
This, in turn, requires confronting your inner judge.
As impossible as this may seem, one way to start is by understanding how
negative self-judgment is created.
How do you determine what is good and what is bad?
Why do you perceive one person or thing as beautiful and another as ugly?
How do you develop the likes and dislikes by which you respond to people and situations?
Your inner judge is formed out of the mental framework, the world view you constructed from external factors such as:
- where you were born
- what your parents and other caregivers taught you
- your culture and your religion
- your friends and your peer groups
- the books you read and the subjects you studied
- the games you played and the passions you discovered
- the work you trained for and the job you do
Your personal framework teaches you to separate, discriminate, and judge.
It defines how you perceive your life and how you react to everything that happens.
Your world view is the basis for the guilt that confines and perhaps even paralyzes you in the present.
It will most likely be painful and may require years of personal effort, but tracing back through honest self-reflection can lead to breakthrough concerning your negative self-judgment.
You begin to see why you make the choices you do.
You start to understand your motives and perceptions.
A first step can be as simple as looking in a mirror and asking yourself what you see.
Or spending time at the close of each day in reviewing all the self-judgments you made in so many hours.
Or lingering in bed a few moments after awaking and requesting fresh insights from your own inner wisdom.
By engaging the courage of your deepest self you open the doorway to dissolving the negative self-judgment that creates a lifetime of guilt and limitation.
How has negative self-judgment affected your life?
Do you have a personal story you would like to share?
Subscribe to our free e-newsletter, Natural Energy Wisdom
If you quote this article in part or whole, please provide a link back to the author at www.energydoorways.com